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You Deserve More than Love

I saw one of those inspirational photo things on Facebook this week that purported to say a lot about what loves is. Or rather, it said a lot about what love is not. Love is not, according to the wisdom … Continue reading

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Why “it’s not about you” is utter bullshit.

“It’s not about you.” I fucking hate it when people say that.  Because, while it may be true and healthy, it’s usually said to let someone know that their feelings are stupid. “It’s not about you… it’s about me.” That … Continue reading

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Beneath The Surface

I keep thinking about all those stupid metaphors that talk about the work that goes on beneath the surface. The graceful duck that glides along the surface of a pond, furiously paddling its webbed feet underneath the water… The deceptive … Continue reading

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Marriage Mad Lib

My husband and I did this exercise during last week’s marriage counseling session. I thought it was interesting, and announced mid session that I’d be featuring Marriage Mad Lib on my blog.  My marriage counselor laughed and Jared shook his … Continue reading

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Marriage Counseling 101: The Dialogue

We’d spent our first session introducing ourselves and covering our individual backgrounds and medical histories while sitting next to each other on a small couch.  When we walked into our second marriage counseling session, we found two chairs set up … Continue reading

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Living Without Trust. Or Control.

It wasn’t easy for me to make the decision to trust again. He asked for one more chance, and I counted up all the one more chances that had already been given.  And blown.  I sat in the dark with … Continue reading

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The Mountain. (Or: By the end of the week I’ll have killed this blog entirely with all this emotional shit. So there’s that.)

My therapist described it as going up a mountain. Right now, it feels more like falling on my ass. Over and over and over again. Unless you’re rock climbing, you don’t go straight up a mountain.  You go around it.  … Continue reading

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Learning The Dance. Again.

We’re supposed to be discovering new surfaces on which to have sex. That’s what people do when their kids leave town.  At least, that’s what everyone keeps telling us. We’ve spent the first week staring at one another.  And fighting … Continue reading

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When families collide.

Family is everything to me. Everything. It is the beginning and the end of who I am, where I come from, and where I want to end up in life. So having my husband be on a completely different page … Continue reading

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The New Friend Stage

I got my first serious boyfriend my sophomore year in highschool.    He became a part of my family, an integral part of my every day life.  After several months, I knew it would last forever. We broke up two years … Continue reading

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