This is a blog about happiness. Defining it, finding it, and hanging on to it.
It wasn’t always that way.
In 2005, I started Miss-Britt as a personal blog. I was living in Parkersburg, Iowa, working full time, and generally just going through the motions of being a wife and mother. I was not happy, but I wouldn’t have said that I was unhappy. I thought that I should be happy, and wondered what was wrong with me that I couldn’t just shut up and be as content as everyone around me.
I knew I wanted more, but I had no idea what “more” meant for me.
Over the next five years, I reinvented myself and my life over and over again in an attempt to find happiness. I moved to Orlando, Florida. I blew up my marriage and then put it back together again. I became a writer. I became a travel blogger. I decided, in late 2010, to sell everything I owned and travel the world in an RV with my family. (That’s the reinvention we’re in the middle of right now.)
Somewhere along the way, I learned that being happy is both a process and a choice.
I found my happiness and my passion.
Now, I want to share that with you.
This blog is about:
Sharing my own journey – it’s ongoing. Happy isn’t a place you arrive at and live there forever and ever. Passion isn’t something you can find under a rock in your backyard. They’re just words we use to describe a way of living and feeling and being from one day to the other.
Right now, my journey involves preparing to hit the road in June 2011 for at least a year of traveling around the United States with my husband and two kids. That means selling everything we own, buying an RV, and trying to convince our parents that we will not starve to death. Probably.
Growth – the shit that goes on inside our heads. Personal growth gets a bad rap because you can’t see it, but also because it’s hard. Changing the way you think is, I think, one of the most difficult skills to develop and also one of the most important.
I believe that for many of us, women especially, the hardest part of being happy is figuring out what in the hell makes us happy in the first place. Before you can “follow your passion”, you have to know what that means to you – what makes your heart sing.
Logistics – it’s nice to talk about finding and following your passion, but what the heck does that mean? What do you have to do? How do you afford to spend your life “following your passion” if your passion is taking pictures of trees? How do you put food on the table and live a life of travel? What can you put on your to-do list today that will actually help make you happier?
All the internal work and personal growth in the world is useless without tangible actions and how-to’s. The secret to happiness includes a lot more than thinking about happy things falling into your lap.
Relationships – because we’re social creatures. For me, being happy means improving the way I relate to the people around me. For most of us, the people in our lives have the potential to be a big fat source of unhappiness. Let’s see what we can do about that.
Inspirations – because if someone else can do it, so can you.
I am not a self-help expert, a counselor, or a financial advisor. I don’t imagine myself to be perfect or wiser than most people. I’m just a woman who loves the idea of people finding their passions and living really happy lives. And writing about that makes me happy.