Is love supposed to make me want to slit my wrists?

Greeneyezz tagged me damn near a week ago. For the record? I hardly ever do memes. There is far too much angst going on in my daily life to have time for memes! I am terribly, terribly important.

Unless, of course, you happen to say something like “MissBritt – Have read your blog, but didn’t get the chance to meet you at TeqCon. However, a few of the posts I’ve read has left me with a feeling of you being an ‘old soul’.”

Then I will meme the shit out of you. And also answer your questions…

What does true love mean to you?

By “old soul” do you think she meant “totally flailing about in the wind about this exact thing right now and won’t it be fun to watch her squirm“? Bitch.

In my head, I like to think that true love is this once in a life time You Know When You Know phenomenon. I imagine rainbows and fireworks and clicking and perfection. I think of phrases like The One and Meant To Be.

But I’m not so sure that’s true. “True” love implies that there is “less than true” love. And I think that’s probably bullshit.

I think love is pure and strong and lovely. And changing. And really, really hard in real life.

How do you know if you’re really in love?

When you find yourself consumed with their happiness instead of your own. And that’s OK, because you find out that one doesn’t come at the exclusion of the other.

How many times in your life have you fallen in love?

I think twice. It’s possible I would have fallen a third time, if I had allowed myself to wander that far down the rabbit hole.

Have you ever fell out of true love because you were mad in the moment?

Absolutely not. Love is not fleeting like lust or anger. It doesn’t come and go as quickly as a moment.

Do you feel love and physical attraction are the same thing?

Absolutely not. You can be physically attracted to someone without loving them. I also think that it is possible to love someone without being overcome with physical attraction.

I need to believe that’s true.

If your true love became ill or disfigured would you continue to love them the same way?

Of course not. I would continue to love them, but not in the same way. Just as I wouldn’t love someone in the same way if they continued to age, or grow, or learn. Love evolves as people do.

Should anyone else be able to tell you who to love or not love?

If only it were that easy. The human condition would be so much easier to endure if we could only love who we should and flee from the ones we should not.

Do you believe people that ended up divorced were ever truly in love?

In most cases, absolutely. Love changes. People change. Life changes. Sometimes it is impossible to keep all of those things changing in the same direction.

Would you give up something you want for someone you love?

That depends. I believe in compromise. I believe in wanting to put someone ahead of you. But I also believe that at a certain point if you are required to constantly “give up” for someone you love, you need to seriously assess if this “love” bit is a two way street.

If you truly love someone do you feel it should be unconditional?

Yes and no. I think that the feeling is unconditional.

But I also think that realistically you are talking about loving another flawed human being. In part, that’s why it is so important that love is unconditional. But at the same time, it also means that another person’s actions and choices have a tremendous amount of weight in your own life.

For example – if someone I love chooses to hit me, that is going to dramatically alter my ability to love them.

Jeeeeeeez. I’m depressed as hell now.

Anyone else?

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